The days babies come are supposed to be the happiest days. For some families, they are also the most crushing.
There are families who say hello and goodbye in the same day, and sometimes in the same breath. The grief is heavy. It feels too heavy to carry. These are families that should be soaking in those beautiful sleepy newborn days, learning how to interpret cries, feeding at all hours, and changing lots of diapers.
These are not families that should be visiting their children's graves.
Every time I photograph a child's funeral I feel like raw meat. Just beaten. I cannot wrap my brain around how devastating this loss is for parents, grandparents, and siblings. The sight of a coffin that is so small . . . it's heartbreaking.
The person who designed this balloon meant for it to be seen in a hospital or at home. Instead it's marking the new resting place of a little boy who is very much loved.
I see a lot of incredible moments of the human experience while being with families in love and grief. From each family I learn, and those lessons and points to ponder are what I wish to share with you here.